The ex never liked when I was right. Its not like I threw it in his face... well, maybe I did but only because he never seemed to respect my opinion on things.
For instance, he is a FAB-U-LOUS gourmet cook and watches Food Network just as much as he watches sports. The guy can cook anything and cook it well. However, we are different in that he will follow a recipe to the letter and I like to deviate. (Call me experimental!) If I suggested adding something or changing something, he would absolutely balk at the idea. Every now and then I would slip something by him (which was rare as it was always his kitchen) and suddenly, he would have to admit that I had a good idea.
It was the same with lots of things. If I made a suggestion on something, he would act like I didn't have a clue. Then a friend would suggest the same idea and he'd jump all over it.
Here's the thing with me: I don't like being ignored. And back then, it only made me talk much louder.
So lately, the ex has been having problems with his knee. He has always been a runner so I suggested cycling. He knew I was getting into it and doing long rides but he kept rolling his eyes at the suggestion. He finally had an MRI and went to see an orthopedic surgeon a few weeks ago. Later that night he was at the house.
I could see something was up by the look on his face. He told me that the surgeon said he may be developing arthritis in his knee. Then he rolled his eyes and reluctantly admitted that the surgeon also suggested he take up cycling. Ooooo... I held back but he just kept laughing and saying, "Whatever!"
Now, he's cycling and occasionally asks my advice on the sport. "Since you're the expert and everything..." he always says with an eye roll.
I think its great and I encourage it. Good for him.
Tonight we were at Rose's soccer game and I told him about a group ride I will be doing this weekend. I told him that I think he'd enjoy riding with other people and he could make more friends.
He looked at me and said blankly, "I don't like groups. That would mean I'd have to talk to people."
How the hell was I married to a man who doesn't like to go out and meet new people?!?!
Do you ever look at your ex and wonder... What the hell was I thinking?!?
Heh, it worked out. He's a good man. I have great children from him. But I am a very thankful woman that I've moved on. Whew!