The Truffle Theory

Soldier was an animal in bed. I mean, I expected him to be after a year of no sex. The thing is.... he's always been that way.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm all about crazy, wild, all-over-the-world, upside down, porno monkey sex. But I also require balance.

I'm a sensual girl. I get turned on if the wind blows through my hair and the clouds are nothing more than a thin veil hiding the moon in her naked glory. I wrote a song once comparing the earth to a woman's body. If a man smells just right, my skin will tingle. A good seafood bisque will have me moaning in pleasure. I've always been this way.

I've decided...the next man I get sexy with should be a sensual man as well. I've decided to put into practice a theory I have. I'm calling it: The Truffle Theory.

Have you ever tried these Lindt Lindor Chocolate truffles? Lindt actually has an entire section of their website dedicated to using all of your senses to eat their chocolate.

I seem to recall standing in my pantry with Soldier last fall and pulling out a bag of these truffles.

"These are my favorites," I told him as I handed him one. "See? What you do is unwrap it slowly and observe the scent.... inside is a wonderful creamy..."

Before I could even finish he had already unwrapped the thing and swallowed it whole. What the...?!?

I watched as he dove through everything in my pantry to satiate his hummingbird metabolism. He had to try a little bit of everything - barely stopping to truly savor what was in his mouth. He even said to me, "I eat like I fuck."

Isn't it true? Don't we all look at food and sex the same way?

It was fun for me to be with someone that insane in bed. I had never experienced that before. A little of this, a little of that... We were literally all over the place.

He was an amazing kisser too. Usually a girl gets a sense what a man is like by how he kisses. Soldier totally swept me off my feet with his kisses but once the clothes were off, he was dominant, strong, aggressively powerful and damn sexy. I loved it. I craved it. Something was missing though.

He was not sensual at all.

I like the slow build-up. Remember the old days of kissing and longing before losing your pants? I prefer a man to explore my entire body. I have so many erogenous zones that could be explored. I can nearly orgasm from light finger touches along my back or just the right amount of nipple pleasure with a tongue.

Can we not simply savor what is happening right now, slowly and with intention, before moving on to the next thing?

Use your senses with me. Look at me. Feel me. Smell me. Taste me. Listen to my moans and the rhythm of my breath. That is exactly what I am doing with you.

Once I've been taken to the point of near-ecstasy, I will get aggressive. I will get crazy on you. And it'll be worth it. Trust me.

Enjoy your chocolate guys. You never know what a girl learns from watching you.