"An orgasm is like the period at the end of the sentence. I like the verbiage."
I watched porn star Jenna Jameson on Wiliam Shatner's Raw Nerve over the weekend.
After watching the interview, I began pondering the differences between the men I've been with sexually... and the way they made love to me.
I've noticed with some men, it seems like getting a woman to achieve orgasm is their only goal. I mean, don't get me wrong... I'm all about a man wanting to please me and help me to reach such a glorious climax. But I agree with Jenna...
Its not only the destination but the journey that I enjoy.
OK, its no secret that a woman likes foreplay. But for me, foreplay could just as easily be a stimulating conversation. A wonderful meal. (To me, food says a lot sexually.) A nice hot bath. A glass of wine will make me putty in your hands. Give me a martini and I will make you putty in my hands. A kiss on the neck. Fingers down my spine. Hands in my hair.
Or... oh my! Tell me what you want to do to me!!! Yes!
Why stop?!? Why go straight for the goods to get me to orgasm?
I can understand the tension building. The desire bubbling. Let's play with that a while.
Shedding clothes can be another wonderful form of foreplay. The anticipation may be growing but let's pause a moment.
Don't you want to savor this time?! Why have it end so quickly?
Soldier once said to me, "You're a woman. You can have multiple orgasms."
Yes, yes I can. But I still like to take things slowly. I like to stop time. Look into the eyes of the person I'm with and breathe with their breath. Feel the vibration of their skin. I will shudder in ecstasy with sensual kisses on my back, my fingers in the mouth of my lover, being on my knees and waiting. All of it... will send me into tiny earthquakes.
Now, these tiny earthquakes are good. Don't think that I'm done yet. Oh no. You'll know when I'm done.
And don't pressure me. That is the worst! You will never get me to orgasm by asking me "Did you come yet?"
Well, I was getting there but now that you mention it...
Let's start slow and let it build.
Did you know that a man can achieve multiple orgasms too?
Let's take this to a whole new level. Let me explore every inch of you and savor you like my favorite chocolate.
Did you know that I can get turned on by turning you on?
I want to enjoy you. I want to be enjoyed.
Tease me. Tantalize me.
Oral sex is good but you can work your way there. Do it because you love it. Do it because you like to see me squirming around, pulling your head into me. Do it because it tastes good to you.
Don't do it because you feel like you have to!
(And ladies, I'm sure they'd say the same thing about us.)
I love what you're doing to me but if you're paying attention, you will find that oral is only one of many ways you can bring me to orgasm. You could just as easily continue along the exploration of tiny earthquakes and find me quivering from the least expected touches and penetration.
Those tiny earthquakes can turn into an all out earth-moving experience for the both of us.
Yes, tiny earthquakes are good but when I orgasm, you'd better hold on or you will be pulling me off the ceiling. I'm loud and I'm strong.
But I still won't be done. We'll just be getting started...