I received an email last week from a man I was communicating with online in the fall 2007. We never actually met in person yet he recognized me, recently, at a local restaurant when I was out with the kids. He didn't say anything to me that night. Instead he looked up my old profile and our last correspondence and used that information to email me again. He actually responded to the last email I'd sent him, apparently still in his email archives.
It was just a wee bit creepy but I do remember he was a nice guy. The one thing that took my breath away was what I'd written in the last email I'd sent him, in August 2007:
"I'll be heading out next weekend to visit Dad and enjoy my 20th high school reunion. Can't even believe that!!!"
A LOT has happened since then - dad died 2 months later and I reconnected with Soldier in the weeks following my high school reunion.
His email prompted me to go back and look at my old profile. I was quite amused at my description of myself. Read on and let me know if you think it sounds like me after all:
WHO AM I: Well, I'm a lot of different things all rolled into one and quite comfortable being that way. I think Meredith Brooks said it best in her song Bitch:
I'm a bitch, I'm a lover
I'm a child, I'm a mother
I'm a sinner, I'm a saint
I do not feel ashamed
I'm your hell, I'm your dream
I'm nothing in between
You know you wouldn't want it any other way
I know myself very well and yet I'm still learning.
I know what I like and yet find myself surprised when I try something new.
I can't stand a man who will sit all day and watch football. Though I am originally from Louisiana and will always be a Saints fan.
I really don't enjoy sports on TV and yet I love baseball on the radio.
I listen to just about every type of music from classical, opera, musical theater and jazz to blues, alternative and pop and good old fashioned rock and roll. I can't stand country music or rap.
I'm particular and yet easy to get along with.
I can be opinionated and strong willed and then understand both sides of the story.
I am a planner (Capricorn) and yet love someone who will take the initiative to plan an evening at home, date or weekend.
I usually go for a certain look in a guy and yet I fully understand that either there's a connection or not.
I do believe in romance and yet I don't enjoy too much "sappiness".
I am very intense and passionate and yet the one of the kindest and most laid back of anyone you'll ever know.
I am wise, naive and always wanting to learn something new.
I am far from perfect, getting better at admitting it and putting my best foot forward at seeing the divine in everyone.
I am independent and looking for a companion who is confident, competent, knows who he is and doesn't mind letting me be me.
Think you can handle the riddle that is me?
WHAT INSPIRES ME: God, my kids, my mom, my children's laughter, my girlfriends, a good bottle of wine, trees, the ocean, the Internet, yoga, trying new foods, turtles (both the real ones and the chocolate ones), sitting down with a good book, great writing (books, lyrics, whatever!), Egyptian cotton sheets, art, movies, theater shows, scuba diving, learning about different cultures, the color red, a seafood dinner, romance, sunsets and sunrises, good conversation, candlelight, martinis, my feet in sand, quiet time, did I mention chocolate?, my body pillow, laughing, a nice long hug, spirituality, people who look you in the eyes when they're speaking with you, my herb garden, dogs, homeopathy, writing songs, good group energy, patience, honesty, confidence, trust, optimism, spontaneity, forgiveness, love.
I remember getting lots of attention on my profile until I posted the Meredith Brooks song lyrics. The guys that did respond after that told me that they LOVED that song!
Frankly, those were the guys I wanted to attract anyway.