I've mentioned before that I work with all men. Recently we've hired two other females to balance out the testosterone/estrogen ratio around here. It is nice to bond with the girls.
One of the things I've been privy too, as one of the guys, is how the wives call up to the office to vent to their husbands.
I've been there. I remember doing that with my ex. I can still remember his irritated tone when I called him (he was out of town, as usual) to let him know that the baby needed me but both myself and Rose were vomiting relentlessly.
He didn't like feeling helpless so he would get angry with me.
The thing is, as a wife, we (speaking for myself, of course) are so used to making joint decisions around the house that sometimes we feel that we need some reinforcement.
And sometimes... we just need to vent.
After all, when he came home from a difficult day, he would wind down by filling me in on all the B.S. that he had to put up with that day. I listened, as a good wife should. I didn't feel helpless. I understood that he was letting off steam.
I guess it goes back to the Mars/Venus thing. Men feel that they should do two things:
1. Identify problem
2. Solve problem
But as women, sometimes we don't want the problem solved. We just want some validation, a listening ear, maybe even some sympathy and understanding.
It is interesting, being on this side of the phone call, and seeing how the wives are calling right when we're in the middle of a meeting or conference. I see the irritation on the husband's faces, the rolling of the eyes, the "honey, can I call you back later?" response.
I know how he feels.
And I know how she feels too.
Still it is interesting to see a different perspective on things.