I've had sex with women.
As a matter of fact, I've had sex with nearly the same amount of women as men.
(Not many of either.)
However, the encounters with women were for fun experiences but not long term relationships.
Does that make me bisexual?
I haven't actively sought out women to have sex with. These women are my friends. And some of them are married. My being with them was something that was discussed and approved before it occurred.
A few of them have told me that, after having sex with me, their married sex lives improved.
Could it be that we forget our sexiness when we're married?
Maybe they felt more comfortable exploring their sexuality because they are already in the security of a heterosexual relationship?
Perhaps the experience with me allowed them to feel sexual but didn't take away from the relationship with their husbands?
I can't explain it but their sex lives improved while I stayed:
I'm curious about this term bisexual.
I posed this question on Twitter after reading this article on Blogher:
Do you think bisexual means you don't have a relationship preference for either sex? Or does it mean that you just have sex with both sexes?
"Most bisexuals I know actually prefer one sex, but enjoy sex with either, or both at same time"
"for me the term means, that I like to play with both sexes, although I prefer one to the other for LTRs"
Mindy at SingleMomSays said:
"I think the word itself suggests it is a sexual thing"
Pisces Hanna chimed in to say:
"I think there's 3 types of bisexuals: 1- people who really don't have a preference (or who like everyone), 2- people who are on the way to being gay, 3- nymphomaniacs."
She also directed me to the trailer for the movie Outrage. The movie documents many American male politicians who consistently vote against gay rights but are actually gay (bisexual?) themselves.
It was on the SexyRunners website that I saw this Kinsey scale about the continuum of human sexuality:
0- Exclusively heterosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual
Are the lines for sexuality just getting more and more blurred?
I wonder if sexuality is questioned as much in other countries or if this is a puritanical American thing?
Do we need a label on it in order to feel more comfortable with the idea of sex?
At the very least, it seems that many women have an attraction to other women but may have never acted upon it. I even know a few men that may have bisexual attractions.
I sometimes have sex with women, but prefer a man for a long term relationship. I love cock.
But if there's a label for me, would it be:
Speaking of labels, I have less than 4 weeks until my first sprint triathlon.
I am excited about securing the label triathlete to the list of labels for T.
Aaaannnnddd to pull all of this together, I offer the following pic:
I swear I'm going to get this t-shirt.
Neither my family nor my bi-curious or heterosexual friends wouldn't be surprised at all.