If you were to look at Gentleman Jack and me at the surface level, it seems apparent that we are very different.
We frequently joke that my "sandal wearing" friends would probably not hang out with his "redneck" friends. I practice yoga and study spirituality. He lifts weights and watches sports on TV. I rarely eat meat and he's a hunter with a freezer full of deer. My house is filled with estrogen while his is loaded with testosterone. I can't stand when I don't understand something and he seems to believe the adage that "ignorance is bliss." I am a planner and he takes each day one at a time.
There are also many ways in which we are alike. We parent the same. We both love the outdoors. We look at life in much the same way. We both believe in the power of now and the power of positive thinking. We both believe in a divine Source that is somehow involved with our lives. We both enjoy downtime and playfulness in life rather than being workaholics. We're very compatible sexually. We very much enjoy the same pleasures in life: beauty, nature, love. We have each learned from our past relationship mistakes and communicate with each other in a very honest, open and respectful manner.
I have to write all of this out because, in the space between our visits, my mind begins to wonder. Maybe with lack of sex, my mind actually does begin processing things clearer.
Is it OK that we are so different in many ways when there are so many other ways that we are alike? I mean, surely there are no two people who are exactly alike. Each new relationship has give and take. We learn to adjust to each other, right?
My ex-husband was opposite from me too. However, I was only 19 years old when we began dating. Both he and I were much more adaptable back then. Though I frequently joked that he should buy the house next door so we could each have our own space, we lived together very well. Thankfully, he traveled with work nearly every week.
Now? Well.... after divorces and single parenthood, Jack and I are both pretty set in our ways.
With Martini Mom welcoming The Man to her home and Rachel blogging about it, it has my mind spinning...
Though opposites attract, can they continue down a path long term?
I do realize there is no need to worry about this now; however I do wonder if I could live with someone again. Or marry someone again.
I guess we'll see where life takes us next and cross that bridge when we get to it. We will have sort of a "co-habitating test run" in December when we take our first trip together.
Baby steps ya'll.