"Most married women don't get to pawn off their kids every other week for their sexcapades, trust me."
In response, many of you questioned this commenter wondering if it was only married people without children who should be allowed to have sex.
Unfortunately, many people do believe this and to that I say, to each their own. Perhaps this isn't the blog you should be reading.
To me, the tone of that comment sounded like someone who longs for a "sexcapade" with their spouse.
If I learned anything in 13 years of marriage, it is this:
We all tend to lose ourselves in it.
I honestly feel like I spent a majority of my marriage begging for my husband to spend quality time with me or to have sex with me. I even wrote about husbands and sex after marriage earlier this year.
Marriage is tough. Frequently married couples start to act like roommates instead of spouses. Then you add in the stress of finances, household upkeep, children... it is very soon that things begin to slip by the wayside. And one of those things is sex.
I wanted to be one of those couples who had a date night every week. I wanted to be one of those couples who still flirted with each other in front of our children. I wanted to be one of those couples who, once the kids were in bed, would, at the very least, snuggle up together and talk at the end of the night. Maybe we could even spice up our sex life with every passing year.
It didn't happen, despite my intentions.
With every day without intimacy, our communication wavered. We both became complacent and then resentful and then.... we didn't know each other anymore.
So, anonymous commenter, whomever you are, I mean absolutely no disrespect when I offer you this unsolicited advice:
Find someone you can "pawn the kids off to" once a week or so. Have yourself a "sexcapade" with your spouse. Rebuild that intimacy that it sounds like you long for.
It may be the best thing you could do for yourself and your marriage.