Today as I was catching up with my co-workers, I told them about my trip back to Louisiana to visit Gentleman Jack this past weekend.
Friday night, Jack and I spent a nice evening, just the two of us. On Saturday, he had both of his boys. Saturday evening was spent watching the LSU/Florida game with Jack, his boys and his mom.
I noticed my co-workers' look of shock as I told them this.
"What?! You've met his family already?!"
Already? Yes. We've been seeing each other for 5 months. I've actually met his ex-wife, her boyfriend, his mother and both of his children already.
Then I recalled my own fears from last week. I was nervous too about my girls spending more quality time with GJ. What if they fall in love with him?
My girls DO love my Gentleman. His mother thinks I hung the moon. His sons (and their daddy) were practically glued to my legs as I tried to leave yesterday. His ex gives me hugs and tells me that she trusts me to "be around (her) babies."
I can't predict the future but as with anything, I'm doing my best with what I know now.
This seems to be a hot topic among the single parent blogosphere:
How soon do you introduce the kids to the person you're dating?
Some people says 3 months. Some say 6 months.
I find that funny because my daughters want to know what I'm doing and with whom I'm spending my time ANYTIME I'm not with them. Of course, I reserve the right to say, "Nunya" but... as I've said before, the children of single parents get exposed to things that other kids don't.
I am quite sure my daughters are more "up in my stuff" than other children are with their 2 parent families.
Why do we worry so much about introducing our children to someone that they may actually like? Are we worried that they might get attached?
Then it occurred to me: People come and go.
Isn't this a good lesson for them to learn?
I had a nanny the first 6 months of Rose's life. She spent more quality time with her than I did. She still shows up now and again with little gifts.
Since then there have been numerous teachers that both Rose and Grace have grown attached to. Some of those teachers have moved on or found other jobs.
They have friends that they spend every day of the school year with... only to find that friend is moving away or going to another school the next year.
Sure they get sad about this. Change is sad. Period.
But it happens ALL THE TIME!
Why would we try to hide that from our children?