I mean, who can blame them? I certainly get it. He's good people. He treats them with respect and gives them boundaries.
Not many of my friends or family give them boundaries. Most of the time, my girls' cuteness overrules any sort of boundary with other people. They can usually get away with murder and my friends will say, "Oh its no big deal! They're so darn cute!"
Its terribly exhausting. My kids don't act like that with me.
GJ is silly and listens and plays and redirects their boundless energy. He allows me to step back and relax instead of being a hovering mother trying to protect my friend from two wild children. He enjoys them at their level but continues to maintain adult authority.
I love that. I can actually breathe.
After he left on Sunday, Rose walked around the house swooning and asked me, "Mommy, don't you just feel so lonely when Jack isn't here?"
A few days ago, I was browsing some other journals and things I've written. I found this...
A list of questions for my daughters to ask themselves before they get married.
I wrote this shortly after separating from my ex-husband.
I feel good reading it because, well, it tells me even more that I'm with the right man. And that my children have yet another great example, other than their dad, of what a good man should be.
Here are some things I would like you to look for in a husband/partner:
- Does he treat you, your family, your friends and the things you care about with respect and love?
- Does he love you so much that you feel wonderful or are you always trying to get him to love you more?
- Does he have a good relationship with God?
- Does he know himself, his limitations and strengths and accept himself for who he is?
- Does he accept you for who you are or is he trying to change you?
- Do you accept him for who he is or do you think you will change him?
- Is he responsible enough to take care of his own finances and is in good financial standing? (He doesn’t have to be rich, just know how to budget and handle wisely the money he does make or have.)
- Are you willing to love him through thick and thin? Is this someone you will always cherish?
- Can you love this person even if they may do something that hurts you deeper than you’ve ever been hurt? Is this someone you could forgive anything?
- Is this person willing to grow with you as you discover your path in life?
- Are you willing to do the same?
- Is this someone you can talk to about any subject at all? Even the things that might be a bit uncomfortable for you, him or both of you.
- Do you fight with listening ears and without calling each other names?
- Is he strong enough to admit when he is weak? Is this a man who could actually seek help when he needs it?
- Are you strong enough to let him be the man?
- Can you be weak, say you’re sorry and know that you are still loved?
- Has he ALWAYS been honest with you – no matter what the situation is?
- Are you able to ALWAYS be honest with him?
With all that you've learned about life and relationships, is there anything you'd add?