This is the first of a 10 part series about the affair I had during my marriage. I realize that this might be uncomfortable for many to read. Perhaps you've been through this experience but from the other vantage point.
I have, unfortunately, seen infidelity from all sides and many different angles.
I feel the need to process this. It is painful but I learned much from it.
Perhaps it will educate someone on what its like to be the "other woman". Perhaps it will convince someone to think twice before having an affair. Perhaps I will turn many of you away.
Perhaps this is something I shouldn't even publish for fear that my daughters may read it one day.
I can't think about all of that. I simply know that I must write this. I must clear this...
Many of the details are foggy now but I do remember time in moments.
I was in my last year of college working towards a degree in Information Technology. My professors were impressed by my straight A average and suggested that I apply for a scholarship at a very large IT consulting corporation. If I won the scholarship, I'd be eligible for a paid internship as well.
I won - both the scholarship and the job.
My first day, after meeting with my new boss, he told me that he was assigning a man, we'll call him K, to be my mentor.
As we walked the aisle of cubicles meeting my other co-workers, they all began teasing me about this man K. They had me frightened that he was this mean, horrible person. His was the last cubicle in the row. I was shaking.
He turned and greeted me with the warmest, most friendliest smile I've ever seen on another person. My heart leapt.
And that is how we became fast friends.
I have never met a human being as kind and enthusiastic about life.
His enthusiasm for his job left me inspired and full of energy at the end of every work day. We would go to lunch together, now and then, to learn more about each other. We both loved music. We could talk for hours about concerts and bands. He was fascinated that I was a singer. I was eager to learn more and more about the systems we supported. He was always happy to answer questions.
I watched as he treated everyone, every single person he encountered, with so much love, always a smile, a complete happy gentleman. I noticed girls swooning as he walked by. He practically glowed and everyone noticed it.
He was the resident expert at our job and he was training me to be an expert too. I relished the new knowledge and I relished the relationship with my new friend.
At home, life was good.
I was studying constantly when I wasn't working. I'd set a goal for myself to graduate cum laude and when I set goals, nothing gets in my way.
My husband and I were ecstatic about my new job and income. We were on our way! I only had a summer and fall semester of school left and I already had a wonderful job.
My husband traveled nearly every week with work leaving me to my own devices. I was busy though. So busy, in fact, that I was hardly a wife. He took care of the house. He cooked the meals. He took care of me.
I was settled into a marriage 3 1/2 years old and, though I wish we could have spent more time together, I felt happy and content.
to be continued....