This will be a dynamic blog post as I will clarify and answer questions as comments are posted. Please feel free to comment anonymously as well.
Imagine that you are single and out enjoying yourself. You're minding your own business, not looking for a relationship or hookup but find that you're readily attracting the attention of a gorgeous person. The chemistry is undeniable. You're talking, laughing, flirting... sexual innuendo abounds...
And then you notice the ring.
You approach the subject and this person doesn't deny that they're married. But the marriage is on the rocks and its only one night and you both really want it. The next thing you know, its 2 in the morning and this person is apologizing that they have to get back to their spouse. You had a blast and lived in the moment of it. You enjoyed yourself and know that you won't see each other again. No phone numbers are exchanged. The married person goes about their way and you go yours.
My question to you is this:
Do you take any responsibility at all in the act of cheating? Or were you simply enjoying yourself as a single person? After all, it was the married person who chose to cheat, not you. Do you have any regrets?
Would you or would you not have a one night stand with a married stranger?
The comments have been interesting from a male/female perspective and from a karmic perspective too.
I did have an affair on my husband with a married man. Prior to that happening, I would have said much of these same things. I had no intention of cheating on my husband, much less with someone who was married! I did feel sorry for the man I cheated with... I thought he was happy in his marriage and yet he'd fallen in love with me. It was intriguing and irresistible at the time, though it killed me to be hurting his wife.
Ah yes, Karma is a bitch.
When my husband cheated on me, not only was I angry at him, I was extremely upset at the other woman. I'll have to blog about the day I confronted her...
I've been on both sides and, with that experience, I would say never again.
However, I have been with married women since then. These women told their husbands they were with me too. It was fun, experimental, an experience for them to regain their feminine sexual power. Then, as with the previous cheating experience, it turned on me. Now, those same husbands are nervous about my being alone with their wives. I guess cheating is cheating, same sex or not.
Do you find that, because you have dealt with cheating in your relationship(s), you have a different perspective than before?
For those that have said you would do the one night stand and not feel guilty about it, have you ever been cheated on?
As a man, do you feel that a woman would only look outside of her marriage for sex if her spouse was not keeping her satisfied at home?
As a woman, do you believe the above statement to be true? Do you believe that a woman would look outside of her marriage if she wasn't satisfied? Sexually or emotionally? What about a man that seeks outside of his marriage?
And what if the relationship was over but the legal process hadn't been completed?
Thanks for all of these great comments!