I've noticed that several readers click through to some of the sexy bloggers on my blog roll.
If you do, or haven't yet, you will notice that I enjoy looking at or reading erotic photographs and stories. You will also find that I read about couples that are into swinging.
Because its hot.
I've blogged in the past about my own thoughts and fears related to monogamy. I also know that, as humans, we are never satisfied. There is always something newer, better, shinier, faster, prettier... Unless we can remain connected with our true selves (and that should be True Selves), we will be as easily distracted as someone with ADHD at a Cirque du Soleil show.
Its completely normal!
Now, whether or not we act on it? That's a whole different topic. We learn to control these urges, don't we? We learn to control our addictions to food, alcohol, watching TV, sweets, sex.
Its always fun to fantasize about it, isn't it?
According to Jeff Mac's book, Manslations, men fantasize about women they see or meet every day.
He said its *normal*.
We've all read that men have sex on the brain most of the time.
Well, guess what men? There are girls out there like that too.
I'm guilty of it and not ashamed to admit it. I like sex. I enjoy porn. I like seeing girls strip. I love erotic photographs. And yes, if you're gonna blog about sex, you can be damn certain that I will be reading.
Then I'll most likely begin a comment with "Woohoo!!"
I like to look at it. Read about it. Write about it. Think about it. Do it.
Because I. LOVE. SEX.
Gentleman Jack told me, before we even met, that he believes in monogamy.
We'd already discussed my colorful past in my previous relationship and my liaisons with women. He surprised me with this statement as I'd never heard a man so upfront about a committed sexual relationship.
I love this about him. He makes me believe in it too.
But we still love to fantasize.
I have never shared my fantasies before and I have never had a man want to share his fantasies with me. It surprised me, at first.
Since then I have read article after article about sharing fantasies with your lover. It spices things up. It opens up communication on many different levels.
However, just as with a swinging married couple, sharing fantasy involves A LOT of trust and discussion. There have been some times that he wants to share a fantasy and I simply can't handle it. The same can be said for him. We both have to remain very aware of each other's mentality in that moment - either logical or emotional.
When we do share these fantasies with each other, with complete understanding and trust that they are *only fantasies*, it opens up a whole new world.
I mean, what's hotter than your lover saying this turns me on... and YOU get to benefit? Just like I said about masturbation, I think that knowing what turns you on and sharing that with your partner, makes for a wonderful sex life.
I really believe that is why our sex life continues to get better and better.
Have you ever shared your fantasies?
Here are a few other sex-positive places on the web that aren't in my blogroll:
LOVE the animated sex positions on this site's sex position guide:
Courtesy of SexInfo101.com
A blogger who teaches blowjobs. I like it. And it never hurts to learn more, right?
I'm in love with Liberator sex furniture:
Sexis rocks. And even more specifically: Tuesdays with Nina
(I crush on Nina Hartley. Bad.)
I also love Susie Bright. She does an online podcast called, "In bed with Susie Bright". Lets just say a certain blogger that you're currently reading did an interview with Susie not too long ago. Subscribe to her podcasts and you could hear me. *big smile*
Do you have any sexy websites you'd like to share?