You readers NEVER fail to surprise and delight! I loved the comments on yesterday's confessions post so much! I hope you felt better, getting all of that off your chests.
I'm thinking about making it a regular feature, what do you think? Did ya'll save enough secrets for later?
If not, guess you'll have to go make more, right?
*wink wink*
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Gentleman Jack and I have had many discussions about the differences in budding sexuality between boys and girls. He has two sons and I have two daughters.
My ex used to say, "If we had a boy, we'd only have to worry about one penis. With girls, we have to worry about ALL penises!!"
True, no?
The really interesting conversation happened after Gentleman Jack and I watched the American Pie movie and saw how the father was offering his son porn magazines. I asked Gentleman Jack if he would ever offer porn to his teenage son.
He said he absolutely would. Why not?
But when I turned it around and asked the both of us if we would offer male pornography to my daughters upon reaching their teenage years, our first reactions were, "Hell no!"
Now why is that?
Why are parents more comfortable with offering their teen sons photos of naked adult women but not as comfortable offering their daughters photos of naked adult men?
My immediate reaction is, "Because that's perverted!"
And again I ask, why is that?
Thus begins the inequality of sexuality between males and females...
Then I suppose the same question could be asked as to why it's acceptable for girls to look at other naked adult females. I mean, personally, I grew up sneaking peeks at my dad's Playboys and Penthouses and WOW if he had a Hustler magazine! It was interesting and beautiful and made me feel all tingly down there!!
When I saw a Playgirl magazine, on the other hand, I just felt... ew!
Why is that?
Now is different, of course, because some naked men are *drool*. I haven't seen a Playgirl in decades. Do they even make them anymore? Are they sold to women or gay men or both?
I dunno. Just seemed like interesting questions.
Then there's the whole lesbian action that you find on "regular" porn sites and movies. You won't always find gay porn there, no. Because that's "gay"... but lesbian isn't?
Anyway, that's where my brain is after all of those sexy comments. Thanks again for playing.
Totally made my day!
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YES! I vote make it a regular post - I loved it!!
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if I would give my boys porn mags or not. I guess that is something for the hubby and I to discuss.
ReplyDeleteWe have a few old issues of playgirl from when one of hubby's friends gave him a subscription. But they just stay put up, we don't look at them.
I know as a teen girl I was totally embarrassed when I ran across a porn tape that my dad had.
I don't think my dad watched it in a long time though. lol
My answer is HELL NO to both my son or daughter. I will never offer them porn. The inequality is crazy, but I kind of get it. I mean my baby girl can never be allowed to think those things. EVER.
ReplyDeleteIt is odd that most women (in my experience) don't hate GG porn or MFF 3-some porn but most guys that see 2 guys touching throw up in their mouth!
AH, the double standard is alive and well. We discovered that the other day at our house, too. We realized the rules are different for the girl and the boy. She asked why and we responded unanimously: He won't come home pregnant.
ReplyDeleteFunny 'cause it's true?
Well, in my family, sexuality seems to be a trait akin to hair color. It just is. For instance, my daughter has a bumper sticker (NOT on her car) that I really , really want. It says,..."If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair!"
ReplyDelete1. I say, yes on making confessions a regular or semi regular post. It's fun!
ReplyDeleteOf course my confession wasn't sexual. I guess I'm just dull. I married the first man I was ever with and our sex life was less fun than picking up trash on the side of the freeway.
I ended up miserable, met someone else and ended up divorcing the X. And well... you saw my confession!
2. As the mother of four I personally don't feel the need to give my daughters porn. I believe masterbation and sexual exploration are normal and healthy - but parental input in that area is just creepy and traumatizing. There is a difference between having an honest, open discussion with them and participation in their budding sexuality.
Also, whether it's PC or cool or modern or whatever I don't care. I think at a young age it sends the message that what your body looks like defines your value as a female and I don't want that in my girls heads any sooner than it would be normally. We already have Cosmo and every other media source telling young girls that fake breasts and anorexia are what's required to be beautiful. They have enough pressures to deal with.
(stepping off of soap box, sorry that got long winded)
You raise some good points. There is defintiely a double standard here but that's true for SO many things, why not sexuality too?
ReplyDeleteShowing my daughters porn would be down right creeepy - no way! But like you, I had full access to my father's Playboys while I was growing up. Hell, I lived in a bachelor pad with him and my two brothers! Hmmm, that could explain a lot.
And here is where I differ. I don't want my daughter to grow up repressed about her sexuality. I am not sure that I will just give her a playboy, but if she asked, I would buy her one and then disscuss it with her.
ReplyDeleteI want her to be healthy in all areas. Not sure if that makes me creepy or not!
i wouldn't give any of my kids porn (i don't like the unrealistic images of women).
ReplyDeletebut this post did make me think...what do you think of giving your daughter(s) a vibrator when they were teens?
Awesome comments again! These are all making me think.
ReplyDeleteWould I give either of my daughters a vibrator?
Um....
I doubt I'd just up and offer a vibrator to my teen daughter. However, if it were an open discussion and she expressed interest in it, I would certainly have the discussion and help her in getting one. Why not? I do want my girls to have healthy attitudes about their sexuality.
Still, I'm not sure they would ask... I couldn't ask MY mom for one. Nope. No way.
I suppose some of these will be addressed in about 8 years or so... ugh.