Friday, September 3, 2010

Note to Self

You worked really hard on yourself to find someone who loves and accepts you just the way you are.

Now that you have him, are you working just as hard to love and accept *yourself* just the way you are?

And are you allowing him to love you and accept you just the way you are?

That's the really tough part.


  1. Running away and being abrasive and picking fights and all the other things you do with Rascal really isn't allowing him to love you the way that you are. It's showing him the ugliest part of yourself (and believe me, we all have one) and DARING him to still love you.

    Go easy on the dude, will ya? ;-) We like this one.


    You tell it like it is! I like it!

    I know. Believe me, I know. I'm working on it, Sunshine, by working on ME.


    Love ya.

  3. Fear is the wrecker of most relationships.... it seems you're in a hurry... slow down, breathe, meditate, allow him to know you... and most of all, don't beat yourself up... if it's meant to be, it will happen in time. If not, then, another lesson learned...

    You know what's right, you just have to filter it out.
    A great weekend to you T!

  4. what Sunshine said - we love this one!! ;-)

  5. Not allowing someone to love us is taking the easy way out... at least thats how it feels to me when I have similar struggles with BLT.

    It's harder for me to let him in, than it is to build up walls. I have to do the work on ME so I feel deserving of his love.

    Damn this living and loving and learning thing can be a total bitch sometimes!

  6. I know I date usually to work on those areas of my life that I can't when I'm single. To be in a relationship opens us and pushes us into new regions of ourselves. Usually places we've avoided in the past. Change, pain, past problems can still make it all scary, but acceptance usally keeps the door open long enough for us to see if we want to invite the person through or not.

  7. Do it, T!! I figure you deserve it!

  8. Well shit. I tried to answer these questions.....allowing him to...has turned out to be really friggin hard! Thank goodness there is a patient man that seems to absolutely adore me.....guess I should LET him ey?

    This relationship stuff is hard. How the hell do you and Sunshine do this?! I'm learning...thats at least a start:) A year ago I wouldn't even be open to learning (because a year ago I knew it all lol)

    Love ya T
    Thanks for another great post that gave me something to think about

  9. Yes, it is hard!! Can't you tell by how much I write about it and struggle with it??


    It's totally worth it and we all deserve it.

    Love is good. Being adored is good.



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