Gentleman Jack has it right. Mark had it right.
In order to feel valued, I have to think of myself as VALUABLE. Period.
When I believe that my ex-husband's relationship with our daughters needs help, I need to be strong enough and clear enough in MY OWN VOICE to speak up and say something to him. He respects what I have to say. He doesn't realize the value of his presence in their lives. He wasn't even aware of the value of his presence in MY life until I told him how much he was missed, he didn't believe me and bowed out anyway.
Maybe he doesn't realize his own value either?
When I feel that I have no value at a job that seems to take advantage of me, I have to remember that I'm allowing these things to happen. I haven't valued my job either... because I'm qualified for so much more. But that doesn't mean that the job doesn't have any value. More than likely what it means is that if I were doing something else and another person was in this position, I wouldn't value the position either. I need to remember that I AM making a difference.
I must empower MYSELF.
My time has value. My abilities have value. My voice has value. My feelings have value. My ideas have value.
No more excuses or apologies for who I am or whom I'm supposed to be. No more victimhood. Time to take this bull by the balls.
I am worth this blessed life I lead and the abundance that is always available to me.