Friday, February 4, 2011
at 10:52 AM
Well, HISTORIC SNOWMAGEDDON 2011 has foiled plans to see my man this weekend.
However, the good news is that his ex called a few nights ago and willingly volunteered to keep not only their young son next weekend but also his teen son! My eyes grew very suspicious of this as he informed me on our nightly phone call. I'm not sure she won't hold this over his head at some point... Ya know what though? We'll gladly accept it!
I've been a little irritated with Gentleman Jack this week because he's been a bit snippy on the phone. I knew that he's had a rough few weeks but I also know that things have been improving. Don't even get me started on the rough-crazy-completely-INSANE week I've had but I wasn't complaining. I was actually handling it quite well, despite being trapped indoors with kids trying to stay healthy and a dog trying to recover from being spayed.
Did you hear that? I wasn't complaining. Despite the fact that I could've cried at any moment. Despite the fact that each day saw no improvement. I stayed calm and patient with the kids. I didn't let it bring me down. I didn't allow depression to take over. I feel like I handled it relatively well when I think I may have normally been very anxious and hysterical.
And I was PMS-ing too!
I've not been able to be online much due to being up to my eyeballs with blood and snot and guilt about not getting enough work done for work. (Sorry to be graphic. That's not even half of it!)
But through it all, I think I've kept a calm head on my shoulders.
My Gentleman, though. My sweet, sensitive man... has been pissy nearly every night on the phone. Little things were making him snap or start to pick a fight. I caught myself a few nights ago sounding like him when he was doing this. I very calmly asked, "What's going on with you? Because this is silly and I KNOW this isn't what's making you upset."
It wasn't until last night when we finalized the lack-of-plan for this weekend in honor of a porn-sex-filled NEXT weekend, that I realized why he seemed to be manstruating worse than I was.
It's been 3 weeks since we've seen each other. It'll be 4 weeks when we finally do. When he said to me, "I'm going crazy. And I'll be walking around with a constant hard on for the next week." I knew where the irritation was coming from.
My man needs sex.
We had a particular conversation recently about the male/female differences. I recall saying that (in general) women need emotional connection.
He replied that men need sex.
Women need to feel love.
Men need to feel respect.
We mix all that up and it makes for a great relationship strength, right?
Soulful, heated, emotionally connecting sex = happy man AND woman.
Treating each other with love & respect = happy man AND woman.
Oh don't get me wrong, I could most certainly handle some good lovin' from my sessy man right now. But honestly, being as overwhelmed as I have been this week, I haven't even entertained the thought.
Next weekend though? Brang it!
We'll have to wait yet another week for the love, comfort, snuggles, and steam that we so cherish about being together. But next weekend will be childfree and carefree! Woohoo!
....and by the following Monday, there will be 2 less people on their periods.