For instance, I had a problem with the song Love the Way You Lie (by Eminem & Rihanna). I had to explain that one and now, I find myself in the same quandary with the most recent Bruno Mars song, Grenade.
Especially when my oldest daughter, who has an excellent voice, is walking around belting out these lyrics:
I'd catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I'd jump in front of a train for ya
You know I'd do anything for ya
I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes, I would die for you, baby
But you won't do the same
No, no, no, no
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I'd jump in front of a train for ya
You know I'd do anything for ya
I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes, I would die for you, baby
But you won't do the same
No, no, no, no
I'm trying to make sure she understands that if you feel you have to put yourself through PAIN for someone... just to prove you love them? Well, that's not really love at all. What that means is that the person of interest ISN'T INTERESTED.
Why make someone a priority when you are only an option?
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I recorded Superman and Superman II this past weekend so the kids could see handsome Christopher Reeve play the superhero.
They're hooked!
The one scene, when Lois Lane dies, and Superman flies around the world to reverse time has always moved me.
As I watched it with my daughters, I pointed out that scene.
"THAT...." I began.
"Is LOVE!" they completed my sentence in unison.
Yes. Exactly.
I think true love *should* bring out your inner superhero. The person you're with should inspire you to be the best YOU you can be! Even if you never have to use your super powers for anything other than simply loving and accepting - yourself and those around you - just as they are.
Do you agree?
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"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."
~ Lao-Tzu
"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you."
~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
"Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that."
~ Michael Leunig
"All I really want our love to do is to bring out the best in me and in you too." Joni Mitchell
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of bringing out our inner superhero. Haven't experienced that yet.
Ah, Molly took the words right out of my mouth. Love should (I think) help us be the best we can be — and support our loved ones in being the best they can be.
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WOW. I love that for the most part...your girls get it. I'm still working on it. The quotes are perfect. Loving one another to be happy...it is as simple and difficult as that.
ReplyDeleteI have that song on my ipod.
ReplyDeleteI have been worried since way back when about how my kids will turn out in the relationship area. I have been married 3 times. So I am not the best role model.
but i have tried to teach them things now that they are older.
Hopefully they turn out alright.
Great image about love bringing out your inner superhero.
ReplyDeleteI also dig the message from the previous post about love meaning "no pressure."
Are these the kinds of insights you get after a weekend of great sex? Keep it coming...
Bruno says he'd die for this woman who wouldn't do the same. Living for someone is a lot harder I think. And Chris Reeves STILL rocks as Supes.
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JFB
I have the SAME issue with Rihannas Love the way you Lie! And while I have not heard grenade I agree! Love is mutual! We have all..or at least I have...been in a relationship where we tried so hard to gain some ones affection! It never works!!!...yet, our girls hear these lyrics..sigh!
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