Now I'm no stylist but I have actually cut their hair for as long as I can remember. It's really not that difficult and they always get compliments. I've even been asked if I ever attended salon school so... I take that to mean that I do a pretty good job.
The girls were with their dad for a few weeks and during that time, they attended the wedding. The girls really enjoyed themselves and my ex and his wife did a great job incorporating all of the kids into the ceremony.
Yesterday morning, I was helping my youngest get ready for school and fixing her hair. I've been frustrated with myself for over a week now for really screwing up her haircut this time. It just seemed messy and not really cut well.
Well yesterday, in my frustration, I admitted to her that I was sorry for messing up her haircut. Both she and my oldest daughter's eyes grew wide.
"Well Mommy," my oldest admitted, "Daddy's wife (What ever shall her nickname be?) took her to Supercuts before the wedding. She said her haircut was uneven."
I was stopped in my tracks. Thoughts went through my head...
Of course it was uneven. She wanted a bob that was shorter in the back and longer in the front. It was cute like that. Now there are strands of all sorts of lengths and this is better?!?
I didn't cut it good enough for her so she had to get it cut again?!
Feeling very much like my toes were stepped on, I felt even worse because my daughters said it made them mad too. Were they just saying that for my benefit? I told them that this probably wouldn't be the first thing that happens with two type-A moms. Then I had to let it go even though I was pretty pissed off inside.
I simply don't want my daughters to feel in the middle of things.
Then I was just sad again. If this woman would just ALLOW a relationship to happen between us... one without jealousy or animosity or any of the other ill will I feel from her.... then we could've had the following discussion:
Wife: Hey T! Thanks for cutting little one's hair for the wedding. It looks a bit off to me. I was thinking about getting it cut again. You know, because of the wedding and pictures?
T: Oh girl, I completely get it. I thought I cut it okay but I'm no professional. Go for it. That's the thing about hair. It grows back! Thanks for letting me know!
But that didn't happen and my feelings were hurt.
I'll keep on trying.
Am I being too sensitive about this?